Navigating Conflicting Desires in a Changing Relationship

Navigating Conflicting Desires in a Changing Relationship
I was in a slightly dark room connected to a larger building, where I was in frequent contact online with my extramarital lover, Maarten. Maarten required my attention for something, and it needed to happen along a schedule. I enjoyed the attention from him, but it became stressful balancing his needs with the things I needed to do. Maarten looked like himself and his current age, and had more time than before on his hands now that he was fully divorced and was looking to start a new life together. I saw Matt, a teacher I work closely with, who was telling me that I was one of the few people who would still be able to choose a food item of my choice, as the availability of 1 option was now running low. All the food, though, looked appetizing, and they looked like innovative breakfast foods, so I was not bothered if one option was not as available. Because it was special, though, I still wanted it, and so felt inclined to step away from Maarten to see if I could get it. I didn't end up actually getting food, though, as I ended up being led through the building by Matthew, an old supervisor of mine who I got along well with. Matthew was straightforward and was showing me how to navigate the area efficiently. By the time we got back to where we started, I saw Maarten again, but he appeared to have aged considerably and gained weight. He looked more like my old 5th grade teacher. I still felt love and affection for Maarten, but I was confused about his changed appearance and was starting to rethink if I wanted to be with him given how he now looked.

This dream reflects a struggle between two conflicting desires in your waking life. The dark room represents a sense of uncertainty or confusion, while the larger building symbolizes the complexity of your current situation. Your extramarital lover, Maarten, represents a desire for excitement and passion outside of your marriage. However, his need for attention and the stress of balancing his needs with your own suggests that this relationship may not be sustainable in the long run. Maarten’s appearance as his current age and his newfound freedom after his divorce may also symbolize a desire for a fresh start and a new life. This is further emphasized by the innovative breakfast foods, which represent new opportunities and possibilities. However, the limited availability of options and your desire for the special food item may suggest that you are hesitant to fully commit to this new path. The presence of Matt, a teacher you work closely with, and Matthew, an old supervisor, may symbolize the conflicting influences and guidance you are receiving in your waking life. Ultimately, the appearance of Maarten as an older, heavier version of himself may represent your doubts and concerns about the future of this relationship. This dream may be urging you to carefully consider your desires and priorities before making any major decisions.